Why Every Domme Should
There are many points I can make to show why a sub paying initial tribute is the correct way to begin all FemDom relationships; for both parties’ minds and to set precedences between the Top and bottom. Every interaction between Domme and sub matters in building connection and the full body and mind experience. To act with acceptable and expected manners from the start is of utmost importance. How a relationship begins sets the stage for how it will continue.
Firstly, I only want to invest my time and attention in submissive men and women who deserve it, and those who are genuinely fulfilling for Me to Dominate. I deserve wonderful experiences and chances to use My skills and expand My Dominance. If you are not prepared to show Me you value and respect My power from the start I can never believe that you will manage to satisfy any of My further commands.
A Man Must Show His Value to a Woman
Unlike a Woman, a man has no intrinsic value in and of himself. He must prove his worthiness. Offering tribute towards a Woman before a man approached Her has been the accepted social and cultural norm for centuries. It is his display of worth and future value that he could offer Her in exchange for Her time and courtship. Initial Tribute is to give Her time to assess the man’s potential value to Her and what She may consider offering him, if She is pleased.
Men are designed to be providers and the women that associate themselves with him are his most significant value. Women are the judgements of value; from both man’s and Woman’s perspective. So, it is natural to assume that a man will present his best self and overachieve other men to secure himself time and value in Her life.
A beautiful, powerful, successful, dominant woman is highly valued. She likely will know Her worth. Meaning She knows, that to satisfy Her, the man must be of high masculine value or be able to offer Her something else She desires. If a man doesn’t show the values the Woman desires in a mate there may still be a possibility that he could make a valuable slave to Her.
My Time is Made for Valuable Experiences
I want to bring out the best submissive in you. Be that a slave, sub, boy toy, puppy, stool, drone, bitch or dirty little slut etc. I want to have fun with you and play games. Games set within sane boundaries only. Real life dramas are best kept on television. I want an honest D/s relationship whether you are an owned slave or a random mut. I always come to My appointments. How about you?
With the rise of interest of FemDom and Fetish, in the last two plus decades of My involvement in BDSM, there has been an influx of subs and Dommes. Many of which have never been versed in actual BDSM practices or techniques. They want to experience the thrill of Power Exchange, Domination and Submission. Most of these newbies are so excited to play they fail to realize the importance of certain traditions and how they support the D/s relationship to create the best fetish/fantasy experiences.
How does one expect the D/s experience to ever feel real if the Dominant allows the submissive to disgrace Her from the start by speaking without Initial Tribute, getting a response, and being able to take control of the situation? That honestly speaks more to the Domme who consistently allows such depreciation to Her character and thus value as a Woman.
The ‘Is She Really A Domme’ Dilemma
I have had slaves sense My power and flock to Me with all matters of tricks and woes in attempts to acquire My precious time and serve Me without adequate Tribute. I wouldn’t be so foolish. I am not a girl. I am a Woman. You would be the more disappointed if I fell for your trick and then you would have to feel the karma that you would expose yourself to by such a betrayal to your own desires of submission.
I am thrilled to see so many diverse people getting involved in BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance and submission), indulging in their fetishes, knee deep in their fantasies, and integrating their shadow with play to find there is a special place for Taboo things. That said, not everyone who aligns themself with being a Domme or a sub is automatically accredited with the title.
Regardless where your fantasies lie, they lie within some or many disciplines of BDSM. Yes, BDSM. If you are new and you think you may enjoy experiencing any fetish or fantasy you owe it to yourself to get familiar with BDSM and its etiquette respectfully. Expecting to be something just because you like it is akin to saying you’re an actor because you like movies. Everything that is worthwhile to experience takes practice.
As you become adept in your Dominance or submission you will realize it is easy to pick out someone new to FemDom as well as those that mean to scam their way into a “free” experience. There are times we may trust people who do let us down. This happens on both sides. Resolve this yourself. Do not bring it into your next D/s relationship. That will only breed contempt towards your Domme or sub and toxify any possibility of a good experience for yourself moving forward.
But Tribute could mean more than just money
It can and it does. I preach this. Here are two definitions of Tribute that I acknowledge:
Tribute (noun)
Something given or contributed voluntarily as due or deserved
merriam-webster.com/dictionary/tribute
especially : a gift or service showing respect, gratitude, or affection
Something (such as material evidence or a formal attestation) that indicates the worth, virtue, or effectiveness of the one in question
Do you have the balls to show an attempt to know Me? Know Me enough to understand what you could do to achieve My pleasure right now? Would you want to take the risk that you are wrong and your action would instead annoy Me, removing any possible response or further attention from Me? I don’t either.
It’s a hard objective, and you need to decide if it isn’t easier to just do what you know; be successful at your work, postpone your earthly pleasures, and open your wallet to give Me the cash for whatever it is I need or want that would give Me pleasure right now. In this way you are always able to please Me. I have designed it this way. Be grateful I allow you to send your money to Me in tribute. I have made it so easy for you to focus on your submission to Me. In time, if you are diligent, it is likely you will find many more ways to Tribute Me to My liking.
When Is The Right Time for Initial Tribute?
Before you speak. If I have not spoken to you, or we have not parled in a while it is appropriate to send before you speak or request any of My time. Yes, even a hello. My pleasure comes first. If you have not done something pleasing to Me how can I be pleased enough to give you your turn?
Whenever an Initial tribute is paid you are welcome to message Me. We shall have a little welcome chat to see if you are a good fit for Me and My Female Domination Style. From now on you are able to book sessions / serve / spoil / worship and to admire me! Once the D/s is established you’ll have the opportunity to meet Me and to ask more questions and ‘to dive into the deep’, expose your shadow, and get you in your subspace.
To summarize it:
I ask for Initial Tribute to take you seriously, and give you the chance to express your feelings and cravings. To grant you an audience before a Great and Magnificent Goddess who has experienced more than you have dared fantasize. It is a privilege to share your fantasies with Me, as it is My privilege to indulge My Dominance over a delectable slave’s existence.
Do you want to serve a Lady, make your life worthy, and have a goal? Then you are prepared to do this.
Speak to you soon.
