A Safeword for the Master

Safeguarding for safe & sane BDSM

A safeword for the Domme may not be clear at first. If you take a moment to think about it, it makes perfect sense. Not much is ever spoken about in terms of Dommes and a safeword for them. Subbie limits are well respected. The Dommes safety however seems to be a very large and important area that has been overlooked. It is brought to a bottoms awareness as a submissive that they are given safewords to protect and monitor themself with, it is just as so in regards to the Master.

Any submissive/masochist knows that when one is undergoing a very intense physical scene, that just holding onto those safewords can be a chore. But it is far less a chore than having to reach for a series of words to articulate what is going on. A sub can call the word “yellow” so that the Domme slows down, and talks to them. They can call the word “red” to make Them stop. But what happens if nothing is wrong with the sub? What happens if the bottom perceives their Domme is not okay?

Time for another safeword

Top Drop is a very real emotional environment for Dominants that move into their sadism during a scene. In the later hours after a heavy scene or the following day they can undergo quite a psychological shift in which they feel very uncomfortable with themselves. Some end up beating themselves up emotionally for quite a period of time. Some just get very moody and edgy; not really being able to talk about what is going on, as it’s not clear. Given that Top Drop is very clearly widespread within the D/s S/m community I’m surprised that they too have not thought to give themselves and their submissives a safeword that checks in on them during the course of a scene.

Safewords Protect your Domme and you

As much as it is clearly talked about that a Domme should never enter a S/m scene angry; most won’t when they are clearly angry. It is a lot harder to monitor the undercurrents of anger or emotional upset when jealousies, work frustrations, stress, etc. enter into the scene.

A sub may find themself in the middle of a scene knowing that something felt “off” but having no way to articulate it. In the subsequent hours, or even the following day they might be able to understand what they had sensed while in the middle of the scene. Again, as a submissive/masochist, words are not all that readily available when in the middle of a scene.

A Domme’s Safeword Can Be As Simple As A Colour

Once I added one more safeword to My venue it began to get much safer for both My sub and I. Now I had a word that they or I could say. “purple”? I can step back from the scene and examine Myself for 5 minutes. There needs to be no discussion at the time, I can resume My play, and the sub will get a small time out while I inwardly reflect, come to terms with where I am emotionally in the Scene. There have been times that the play has stopped, due to calling the word, as that was what I needed once having examined My own feelings.

Call The Safeword For The Domme For Check In

Top Drop also became less of an issue for a Top when there is known confirmation everyone is enjoying the scene. Not only can I call the word “purple”, they can as well. Sometimes it’s just knowing that a word is there, that makes us check in on ourselves and each other more often. I sincerely hope that those of you that read this article think seriously about what I’m saying and incorporate it into your play. Safewords are just about that. They help to keep everyone safe, not just the submissive.


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